Every time I talk to people back home in Spain about the wonders of Sweden and how great is living and studying here, that’s their first question. Naturally, if you are single in your mid-20s and planning to spend at least the next two years of your life in Sweden, you better prepare yourself and learn the rules of dating here.
Luckily, my friends and I have done some research for you, so without further ado, here is what to expect when dating Swedish men. just every single one we have ever dated …) * The easiest (and almost only) places to flirt with Swedes are nightclubs or parties. * They don’t know how to dance, so the dance floor approach might not be the best method. So even if you both had a great time, you might not get an answer EVER.
In these environments, and with the help of their good friend alcohol, they become kind of talkative. * If the party was good enough and you come back home with a phone number, you should text first. It means “pretending not to hear you and avoiding you instead”. I have talked about this with many Swedes and they all told me that it is a social convention to avoid putting rejection into words.
Waiting for a Swede to text will just infuriate you. * If they answer you, your first date will probably be going for fika.
Regardless of gender, it's worth making the first move when trying to date a Swede - because they probably won't. Don't call it a date One of the most important and most confusing things about dating in Sweden is that it's not dating. You can ask out a classmate for fika, but not a date.
For those from more outspoken, talkative cultures, Swedes may be a mystery. Make a move The first step of Swedish dating is don't be shy.
And it's not because he's not into you - it's because of gender equality.
Personally, I like independent people who like to do stuff in life and don't have "having a relationship" as their life goal.
Self-going, curious, thoughtful and creative people are very likeable to me.